B - Behave intentionally
Consider your relationship with the person you’re planning on talking to and what specifically you want to talk about. It’s also a good idea to give the person you’re planning on talking to an opportunity to ‘opt in’ to the conversation and space to mentally and emotionally prepare.
R - Recognise the stakes involved
Conversations about race can be fraught for everyone involved. If you’re a member of a majority group, you might be afraid of saying the wrong thing. However, it’s important to realise that for those who are minoritised, the stakes are much higher - they may feel exposed and emotionally drained talking about their experiences. There might also be a fear of being misunderstood or suffering career-related consequences.
A - Anchor the conversation in sincerity and understanding
A crucial starting point is acknowledging - that your team members will all have a different experience of the world - and of your organisation - based on their background, identity and culture. Building awareness of your own identity and privilege can help.
V - Vulnerability is important
Avoid defensiveness and take responsibility for missteps. It’s ok to still be learning - we all are. But demonstrating openness to growth is important. It’s also good to note that talking about injustice can be emotional - and that’s normal and natural.
E - Empathy is key
Listening to understand each others’ experiences is the first step to reducing prejudice and moving us towards a position of allyship and positive action.